Dr. Sam Question
Discouraged in Detroit
Dr. Sam has encountered this type of person many times in her career. Life is way too short to deal with someone who likes to complain…constantly…about everything. Here’s what you need to know to deal with your whining office mate. People who constantly complain like to find problems in life, but they really aren’t comfortable with solutions.
Whenever she comes to you complaining about something or someone, you prod and push and encourage her to go to the person in charge and try to find a solution for whatever she’s complaining about. She won’t want to actually solve the problem. She enjoys being its victim too much. If she solves the problem she won’t have anything to complain about! And she'll get tired of finding reasons why she can't try to solve the problem. So she'll stop pestering you with her complaints...although her friends and family outside the office will probably suffer for it. In fact, you might quickly find yourself with your own complaint. An office mate who's always on the phone complaining to others when she's supposed to be working!
Dr. Sam will have to help you solve that problem a bit later...
Psychological Prognosticator Extraordinaire